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The Allowing of Grief

Grief forces us to feel. It’s raw and messy and painful. It involves some seriously ugly cries. Even wailing. The bereaved. Grief-stricken. In mourning. We are all familiar with these words, all relevant to the process of loss. But we are usually completely unprepared when those words pertain to us. We have no cooking clue as to the depth of…
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Ocean Journeys

But as I sat there, pondering this, I realised that in fact I am on my own adventure. Slowly leaving behind the land I’ve known, all that was familiar. Mine has been a slow journey over many months. To be honest I am still not 100% sure of the destination. On Sunday 18th April 2021 my youngest stepson and his…
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Being In The Lost And The Loss

The ONLY way to deal with emotions is to BE in them. Be in the lost and the loss. Admit you don’t know the answer or the way forward. That you are afraid, overwhelmed, angry. I recently returned from a weekend retreat where the overriding theme was around loss and grief. It wasn’t the intended theme, but the facilitator simply…
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A Jar of Capers

And there it was. The jar of capers. The jar of capers that sits at the back of every fridge I’ve ever owned. It had at some point been used as it was open. I noticed the sign that said “use within 4 weeks of opening”. Hmmm. I’ve been living in my current home for over 20 months and I don’t…
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