Death is a natural part of the life cycle. Everything has a life span and everything dies. I have always had a fascination with the fact that for some reason most of us try and avoid the subject of death. Particularly in Western society. We prefer not to talk about it. We brush it off with “don’t be so morbid” or “don’t be silly, you will be around for a long time yet.” Even worse, we promise our children or loved ones we will never leave them. A promise which is impossible to keep. This is the main reason why so many are unprepared when it happens to those they love. Or when facing death themselves. When the regret and the recriminations come in. In addition, many people struggle with how to behave around someone who has experienced loss and it can end up with the grieving person feeling even more isolated and alone.
This interest in end-of-life and the grief process deepened when my husband died in 2019. We had been together for 38 years and he was 81. I was prepared, it wasn’t a shock and yet I was taken by surprise at just how hard grief hit me. Not only that, but there was no warning when it would hit, or how. No rule book I could refer to so I would know what to expect. It’s only now, looking back, that I understand how much of what was I feeling was, in fact, all part of the grief process. That took me almost two years to work through. Grief is part of life and we are all going to experience grief at one time or another.
Through my own grief experience and following a nudge from the Universe, I decided to obtain certification as a Death Doula with Sacred Dying SA, so that I can offer support for anyone walking the path of grief. Grief and bereavement coaching is available for those experiencing grief as well as supporting those facing end-of-life. I have developed a powerful package of coaching and distant Reiki therapy to support the body through the process.
We don’t “get over” grief. We learn to adapt and adjust our lives around it. I hold a safe, non-judgemental space to help process the many stages of grief as and when they arise.
A healthy grieving process is essential in order to move on. We are not meant to stay stuck in grief. The only way to walk the path of grief is to feel the emotions and to go into the rawness. There is no way around the grief, we can’t avoid it, or ignore it, the only way is through. I can walk the path with you, so you don’t feel so alone.